Twin Experiences- What it is like to be a Twin?
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“By chance I came across your website and being a twin thought you would like to hear my story.
I am a 56 year old male living in Norfolk, there has been some strange things which have happened to me from being a twin.
At the age of around 14 my twin sister had a Saturday job working at a shoe manufacturer. One Saturday whilst at work she fell down a flight of stairs and was taken by ambulance to hospital with cuts and bruises to the face and a badly bruised right leg.
On that morning I woke up and felt pain in my right knee joint and pain to my face, I lay there thinking about what I had done the day before wondering if I had injured myself in some way when the telephone rang my mother called upstairs to me informing me that my sister had been taken to hospital. I got dressed and went with her to see her and was surprised to find that she had injured herself in the same places where I had the pain.
The second strange occurrence happened when she became pregnant in her twenty's.
The day before the birth I was at work on a six till two shift at a frozen food factory, during the morning I began to get abdominal pain and my stomach began to swell. After two or three hours the swelling got so bad that I had to undue my jeans because they just got too tight. I got some string to make braces to hold them up, it was lucky I had overhauls on over my jeans. I had taken painkillers during the morning to try an alleviate the pain but it didn't do much good. By the end of the shift I couldn't stand upright and just managed to drive myself home.
My sister gave birth to a daughter that night, my pain then began to ease but it took a few days for the swelling to go down and my stomach was tender to touch for for a few days.
At the time I remembered the time when we were young when my twin had fallen down the stairs but thought this is ridiculous it can't be and put the pain and swelling down to a bug I had picked up.
Two years later my sister became pregnant again and the same thing happened a day before the birth with my stomach swelling and the pain although it wasn't quite as painful that time I,m glad to say as the first time was agony.
I have read the stories from other twins on your site and it's nice to know I,m not the only one that has experienced their twins pain.
I hope you find my story interesting, I can laugh about it now but it wasn't funny at the time.
“My twin boys have been experiencing each others pain since they were born. They were 4 weeks premature and when they were 2 weeks old one of them had a virus infection and he almost died. While he was in hospital his brother was being looked after by my mum, when the nurse was putting the IV line into the twin in hospital the other twin was fast asleep but cried out at the same time. Little thing like this have been happening ever since. They are now 10 yrs old so I could go on all day!”
“I have non-identical twins a boy and girl who are now 6. When they were about 2 my son fell off the sofa while my friend was babysitting cutting his forehead quite badly. he had it glued and was ok but the hospital warned us to keep an eye out for any signs of a head injury as listed on the advice sheet given.
¬ Although he was fine in fact he seemed completely oblivious to the panic he caused, his twin sister became very lethargic slept most of the day and started vomiting out of the blue, the symptoms of a head injury. She was ok the next day but my husband and i still find it quite bizarre to this day and are sure there was more to it than coincidence especially as she was not at home with him when the accident happened.” Jo
“Hi, We are 30 year old, Identical, Mirror image twin girls from Cumbria. As we turned 30 last month we found ourselves reviewing life and both agreed we are at the happiest time of our life.
We have both had baby girls within 7 months of each other and were even pregnant for a short time together to our parents delight. We have always been close and shared most things but sharing our pregnancy experiences was wonderful. Our children spend as much time together as we do but we are careful not to make them like twins.
We hope they will be the best of friends and cousins and always be there for each other (like we are for each other). We are each others other half and this fits with us being right and left handed. We have a bond which is unbreakable and forever and no one will ever come between us. We love being special and we love being twins!” Felicity
“I am a 25 year old twin. Several physical things have happened to me and my twin sister. The first was before we one years old. Sarah contracted mellingitous and therefore had to have a section of her hair shaved off. My hair then fell out. Our parents would sit us both at different ends of the room facing away from each other and say 5 words. We would have to think and draw the one that came to mind - We usually drew the same pictures.
Sarah moved to Cyprus just before our 21st Birthday and one night when I was getting ready to go out with a friend, my finger on my left hand began to really throb. I could not think of what I had done to make it hurt and the only explanation I could think of was that it was my sister. I texted her to ask what she was doing and she replied she was cooking. I asked if she was okay and she said she had just burnt herself with the oil. I asked which hand and she said her left - that was why my finger hurt.
Another time we spent New Year's Eve with away from each other as our boyfriends at the time weren't really friends and so were doing diff things. As we wanted to be with our boyfriends, we decided to spend the evening away from each other. We both went out shopping separately from each other to buy our outfits on New Year's Eve and we were very excited. On New Years day we met up to talk about our nights out and when we asked what the other wore, we realised we had worn exactly the same outfit. The same Karen Millen black trousers, red vests and red shoes. How strange?
These are some of the things that we have experienced and I look forward to more.
Thanks. Love your site.
“ Hi there....
I just found your website, its really good.
i'm a 37yr old twin. My twin and I are both married - we had a double wedding 4 years ago. Circumstances moved her 50 miles away to live 6years ago and even though she stays with me every other weekend I really miss her.
I miss the things we used to do like just popping in to town, meeting up during the week and having a laugh. Our children growing up together...
I do have other friends but its different.
At college, a new girl joined the class who had the same name as my sister. Whenever I heard her name I would look...and then feel disappointed that the 1st thought that would come in to my head was 'that's not my twin'.
You know.... we grew up together wearing the same clothes until we were about 10/11 years old. Then when we went to comprehensive school we had our own circle of friends and went seperate ways when we left school. We would only meet the when our paths crossed. When eventually we both had children, we brought them up as one big family even though we lived in seperate houses and really enjoyed the time we had spare together.
But now I feel as if there's a part of me that is being wasted, it's missing! It's difficult to explain.
Unfortunately my sister and I cannot move due to family commitments and careers to be closer together. But we have spoken to each other with our husbands over the last few years how we feel living so far apart from each other.
We have even discussed in years to come when our children have grown up and we've become 'old and grey' that we will be living next door to each other.
We have discussed what should happen when we die even, that we will not be seperated in our afterlife - to the extent that our ashes will be looked after and not buried until we are buried together.
Don't get me wrong, society takes over our lives and we become apart of the rat race. But when I have time to reflect and enjoy with my family there is still that gap that no-one but my twin sister will ever be able to fill......and yes, that is only when I can feel complete.Wendy.”
Twin Poem by Becca Green
My twin boys came into this world 3 years ago.
Ever since, our lives are truly enriched with these diverse and interesting characters.
So many people are fascinated and enthralled with them, what a position to be in, to be their mother and father!
So many folk have opinions about whether they are identical or non-identical.
Fact: They are non-identical and very much there own people. We are so lucky to have beautiful and tremendous boys in our lives!
I feel a need to share a poem I wrote the day after they were born.
God has blessed us with two young men,
Who grow to become worth more than this pen.
My heart pulses words onto this scroll,
Like this love pulsating us into these roles.
How lucky are we, to be given twice joy
The lord, upon us, giveth two of a boy.
So healthy, so handsome,
So kind and so sweet,
I watch them both draw strength
And nourishment from my teat.
Watch over these small guys,
As they have each other,
There will always be family,
But each shares the other.
We cannot embrace the connection,
But we can admire and astonish
And dare not compare.
Thank you for sharing this love that they make,
Bless ever parent with this feeling, never forsake.
I may be biased, but they really are the most extraordinary and wonderful people to have completed our family. God bless all twins and their families and may they bring joy, awe and wonder to all of us.
Identical Twin by Ken Anstiss
Like two peas from the very outside.
But inside we are not the same.
We love each other, of course we do, to be
Separated would be such a shame.
Just one egg, was split in two,
Keep us close, keep us close, keep us close.
We were close entwined within the womb,
And our closeness, grew, and grew.
It was finally time to see the light,
It was time, to see the blue.
It was getting far too cramped in here,
Give us space, give us space, give us space.
I heard a yell, a muffled sound,
My brother was out of sight but
My neck was caught in a loving embrace,
With a cord that held me tight.
If I could just escape it,
Give me life, give me life, give me life.
From year to year as we grew up,
There was adventure, fun and laughter,
But now he found, a different mate, and¬
Would go, like lamb to the slaughter.
There was no escape, the hurt would come,
Give him love, give him love, give him love.
Years have passed, and we grew old
We are withered, sore, unsure.
We are gramps and grumps, and all such names,
Names we must endure.
We see the young, and the vitality,
Give us health, give us health, give us health.
We have lived, but so far away ,
And seventy years apart,
Not long to wait, to be together again,
These twins will soon depart.
If we could just receive it,
Give us peace, give us peace, give us peace
© Ken Anstiss 2008
Note from the Author
I have written a poem based on my twinness and what happened to me and later my brother, I'm not quite as ancient as the poem makes out, although I am a grandad. Sorry its not a jolly poem but it caught me on one of my missing him days. The trouble with being so far away from a twin, sometimes grabs you by the throat and gives you a little shake just to remind you their not behind you, or in the same room.