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Are your twins future proof?

Are your twins future proof? Are they going to be able to function confidently  as individual adults as well as being part of a matching pair? Can they find a way to be a set of twins but also a husband / wife, a partner, a mum/dad, a colleague without their twin always being there or them putting the needs of their twin first?

Twins might be born at the same time and develop in the same womb but do they really need to be together 24/7? I believe not. They need to be able to function separately ~ to form close relationships with other people, do the things that make them happy and see themselves as individuals. Naturally they are going to spend lots of time together growing up but it’s important as a parent of twins to help them develop the skills they need moving forward to be able to cope on their own as well as being part of a twin group.

If at all possible allow the twins to regularly spend time one to one with an adult, either yourself or your partner. This helps them to find their own feet, and also gives them something to talk to their twin about when they get back together. If they have interests that their twin does not share this is fine, it is ok for twins to have different interests and make different friends. It’s also ok for them to go to parties without their twin or visit friends as an individual, without the other twin always having to tag along.

They may at first miss each other and this is to be expected (although not all twins find it difficult) but they can receive support from yourself and other adults so that they eventually feel comfortable to be separate for periods of time.

It is also ok for twins to have separate beds, separate rooms if you have the space and this suits you and them. I’ve even heard of twins going to separate high schools ,but this may not suit all twins.

It helps them if you and other people close to them see them as two people who (perhaps) share a close bond not as one person in two bodies.

 

 

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Sleepless nights? Again?

Night times don’t need to be a nightmare!

Many parents feel that night times are more of a nightmare and that they and their children just aren’t getting the required amount of sleep.baby-plain1

Firstly establish WHY they’re waking up.
The first thing to look at is WHY your child isn’t sleeping very long at a time? Sometimes this is easy to work out, they’re too hot or cold, they’ve filled their nappy or wet the bed, maybe they’re genuinely hungry or thirsty or even ill.  Other times it’s not so obvious so you might need look more closely at what is happening.

Imagine your night time nightmare was actually a film script, with you and your partner and child in the starring roles.

What actually happens? Your baby/child cries and naturally you want to go to him/her. How long do you leave it before you go through? Do you immediately leap out of bed or do you wait for a minute or two to see if they’ll settle back off on their own?

Then what do you do? Do you put the light on, or just stay in the dark, do you talk to them or pick them up? What systems to you go through to get them to settle down again?

It’s in here that the answer lies. Do they always want the same thing? Do they always need a drink or always need a cuddle, or always need a midnight snack? Do they seek comfort? Do they simply want to spend time with you one on one? Sometimes the middle of the night is the one key time when a child gets a parent all to themselves, with no distractions.

Often we’re so busy doing everything that we simply operate in  parallel to our child (and in today’s society it’s hardly surprising when parent’s are expected to have a job, to maintain a house, be a parent, have a hobby, be a partner. There really is no wonder why sometimes the child’s only time to have their parent’s full attention is to scream at the top of their voice at 2 am! )

If you can work out why they’re waking up and what you do to solve the situation. Tonight take a step back and work out what is is that you do that settles them and see if from this you can work out why they’ve woken up in the first place.  Then tomorrow night pre-empt it by offering whatever it is they wake up for BEFORE they go to bed.

If you’re lucky enough for them to be always waking up for the same reason) you might be able to shuffle your evening routines round to nip the problem in the bud.

If they’re waking up hungry, you could either serve them their dinner slightly later, or offer supper ~ generally a carbohydrate based snack and a milk based drink works the best, or perhaps a small sandwich. (Obviously if they’re allergic to any of these things, don’t offer them).

If thirst is the problem introduce a drink before bed, or make sure that they have several drinks throughout the evening thus diminishing actual thirst.

If they’re hot or cold, you can easily alter the room temperature with heating or fans depending which way round or to change the bedding type. Some children prefer HEAVIER blankets and duvets finding it harder to sleep under lightweight duvets. Some babies and children prefer a sleeping bag so that they  can’t kick the covers off.

Light can also be a problem ~ some children like having the light  left on so that they’re not scared of the dark, but light can affect the way the sleep hormone is produced so if your child is finding it hard to sleep it might be worth turning off any lights, including those on tv’s,  stereos and alarm clocks. Natural daylight in the summer months and street lighting shining through curtains can also affect sleep patterns so a black out blind might help.

If they’re waking up for a  chat, then re-organise your evening so you can have a chat with them before bed, hopefully meaning they can then go through the night without needing another one!

Calm, clean, clutter free bedroom is key. Another key reason some children simply can’t sleep is there is so much going on in their bedroom. Bedrooms work best when they are tidy (!) and clutter free. Whilst it’s the norm these days for toys, tv’s, computers, ipads, games consoles, mobile phones etc to be kept in bedrooms it’s not conducive to a good night’s sleep. If possible keep toys and technology downstairs (get dual purpose furniture which doubles up as toy storage and seating if possible). The other thing that sneaks into children’s bedrooms is laundry.  Bedrooms should be used for sleeping in, and be as restful as possible, not filled with washing.

Sometimes children don’t sleep because they are over tired. If this is the case they’re not going to be able to get to sleep properly so it would be a good idea to introduce quiet times into their daily routine so that they’re not rushing about too much. If you’re running errands make sure you do this when their energy levels are naturally higher.

If your child continues to struggle to sleep and you’ve gone through the check list, it  *might* be worth getting your child checked over by an osteopath, sometimes (though not always) a child can’t sleep because of problems with his/her back, which can be solved by sessions with an osteopath.

 

 

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Choosing options for feeding your newborn twins. Breast feeding or Bottle Feeding (or BOTH?!)

Breastfeeding or Bottle Feeding?It is normally possible to breastfeed twins and breastfeeding is a relatively cheap option as there is no formula to buy, and unless you choose to express breast milk for your babies to have whilst you’re out,  has comparatively little equipment purchase costs.

Should you choose to breastfeed it is up to you whether you also buy breast pumps, sterilizer, etc now, or wait until after the birth.

Some mums do buy a breast pump, sterilizer, bottles etc before the babies are born whilst others wait. It is entirely up to you what you do.If you plan to bottle feed you will need to buy at least 6 bottles, a bottle brush, formula and a sterilizer.

For more information on Breast Feeding Twins click here

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Twins at School

•Should you keep your twins together at school?
•Would separate classes be better for them?
•What about separate schools?

There are lots of choices facing parents of school age twins. Sometimes the choices are made for you, maybe the school of your choice only has one class per year, (or even one class for infants and another for juniors) solving the dilemma about whether or not to separate twins at school.

School Policy
Some schools have a blanket “one-size-fits-all” twins and multiples policy of either separating twins or keeping them together. If your preferred school has this policy and you don’t agree with it, it is worth booking an appointment to see the head to discuss your twins individual needs. This will give the school opportunity to state why they think their policy is a good idea. It may be that they are willing to negotiate or to offer your twins a trial run of being together/ separate to see how they get on.

It is a good idea to ensure you give your twins enough time to adapt and settle in, so see if they can give it around half a term. I have heard of a case of twins who were separated at school and who hated it for the first few weeks, but got used to it after half a term and when they were later put back in the same class moaned a bucketful as they were more than happy separate!
Sometimes the school is absolutely right, and you find that actually their system works really well even if it wouldn’t have been what you would have picked yourself.

If the school of your choice has more than one class per year group and no particular twins policy the choice whether to keep them together or to separate them is entirely up to you.
When you do have a choice careful consideration should be given as to what would suit the needs of your particular twins. My twins were put in separate classes from Reception (age 4) to year 5 (age 10) which worked well for them. Their school had a system where they were together for some lessons like Numeracy and Literacy and separate the rest of the day. So this was a good compromise. However, your twins have their own individual needs and personalities, and only you know what is likely to suit them best. This could be either putting them in separate classes or keeping them together.

A workable compromise
If you decide you want them to be together but have some time working independently you could speak to their teacher and suggest that they work on different tables or in different groups. This allows them to have some separate time working with other children independently of their twin but with the comfort of knowing that their twin is still within earshot. This can also be a solution in the smaller schools where they have to be in the same class due to the size of the school.

The benefits of having them in separate classes.
Having them in separate classes can mean that each child gets to make their own individual friends and be self-reliant. It also means that they don’t have the opportunity to keep comparing their own progress to that of their twin. However it can lead to only one twin being invited to a birthday party or home for tea which is a mixed blessing, although it can be nice to spend some quality time with just one twin. Often an invite is offered to the other twin once the host parent realizes that you have twins.

The Benefits of Keeping them together.
Keeping twins together can be a comfort for them. It can come in useful as a point of reference especially as they get older and homework is issued. It also means parents evening is less of a nightmare as you have less teachers to see! At the end of the day which ever way you choose should work out really well, and if you find after half a term or more that it isn’t and everyone is unhappy there really is no shame going into school and having a conversation about how to improve the situation.

My twins are very dependent on each other, should I keep them together?
Twins do need to be able to be independent of each other by the time they leave school, they need to be able to stand up for themselves, to work as individuals, to form friendships with others and spend periods of time apart. Obviously it would be a big shock to the system to separate twins who are this used to relying on each other. A kinder solution would be to slowly build up the amount of time they work independently, both in the classroom and at home. Working for short periods in separate groups gradually increasing the amount of time spent separately can help this. They need to feel safe but take tiny steps towards independence.

I want to separate my twins at some point, but when is best?
This depends on your individual twins. Some parents have put their twins in the same class at school for their Reception year then separated them for Year 1 onwards.
Others have had them together up till Juniors then separated them.
My twins were separated in Reception and survived even though I was often told I was a big meanie for doing it so soon. I figured that the sooner I did it the better as what they’d never known they’d never miss! But this isn’t the right answer for everyone’s twins. Y
ou will probably know when is right for your twins, if it happens at all. Some twins stay together throughout their school years and are just fine. Some twins go to separate SCHOOLS and cope just fine, although this seems to be less of a logistical nightmare when they go to High School (age 11+) and can either walk independently to school or take the bus!

One twin is so much brighter than his twin, what should I do?
A good teacher should be able to set work at the correct level for each twin, so this shouldn’t be a problem. It may mean them working on different tables at primary school or being in different sets at high school but with sensitive handling there should be no reason why each twin can’t reach his or her potential.

If it means that one of your twins is clever enough to pass an 11+ exam to get into a traditional Grammar School and the other one isn’t, you have a dilemma. I have heard of twins where only one has got in to Grammar school, and the parents were faced with a tough dilemma as to whether to send the ”clever” one to Grammar and the other one to a regular high school or to send them both to regular high school. Talking this through with both twins separately is a must and only you can come out with a workable solution.

Filling in Application forms for Twin School Admissions.
There should be a section on the application form to state any reasons you want your children to go to that particular school, it is worth mentioning in this section that you have twins (stating the other twins full name) and you want them in the same school (unless you would prefer they were separate) If you have sent your twins to school outside your normal school catchment area because you want your twins in separate classes it would be worth mentioning here too.

If you don’t get your twins into the school you prefer or only one gets into your first choice you have the right to appeal. State clearly your reasons for choosing the school and reiterate that you need both twins in the same school for logistical reasons (unless the two schools are next door to each other and dropping off and picking up are not going to cause too many problems.) Good Luck!

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Top Tips for Coping with Newborn Twins

•Newborn Twins need feeding approximately every 2-4 hours round the
clock for the first few weeks.
•If they’re still asleep after 4 hours, wake them up and give them a feed! This stops them getting too tired to feed. Once they get a bit older you can stop doing this and let them sleep through.
•Newborns may sleep for up to 16 hours throughout the day.
•Nappy changing can be done before a feed, after a feed or in the middle of a feed if they’ve fallen asleep before having enough milk.
•Feeding them together saves time, but can take a bit of practice. It is handy to be able to feed them together but it’s also nice to be able to cuddle up to each of them and give them a feed on their own sometimes too.
•For information on Breastfeeding Twins click here. 
•Bottle Feeding. Latest thought is that you should make up bottles as you go along rather than making a batch and popping them in the fridge to reheat later as mums traditionally have done.
•Here is what the NHS say about making formula.
•It is possible to bottle feed your twins together, use pillows to support them. Experiment with positions until you find one that works for you or put them in their bouncy chairs and sit between them, holding their bottles. Never leave a baby unattended with bottles.

•‘As a new parent you will be bombarded with so much information and advice. The best advice has to be ‘ Listen to all the advice and then hand-pick the bits that make the most sense to you, and discard the rest’ At the end of the day you are the parent, you know what is best for your child. It is essential that you learn to read your child. Remember that every child is different and what works for one baby might not work for another one, even with twins!’ ~ © Sarah. Founder of Twinsonline

•Any Questions? If you have any questions regarding Breast or Bottle Feeding, or Coping with Newborn Twins please either email sarah@twinsonline.org.uk or ask a question on the Facebook Page. If you wish to do so anonymously please send a PM (inbox) on Facebook.

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Establishing a Night Time Routine for Newborn Twins

When should I begin to establish a night time routine for my twins?

You can begin to establish a night time routine for your twins straight after birth if you wish to do so. Some parents start from birth/the time their babies come home from hospital whilst others wait a few weeks and then introduce a routine. There are no hard and fast rules, it depends what works for you and your family. You may find that your babies set their own patterns and you can work around that. If you have other children and work commitments you may need to fit their routine around your own routine.

How do I establish a night time routine for twins?

In the early evening keep everything in the house as calm and quiet as possible, try to limit excitement and noise. This helps to set the scene and start creating a calming atmosphere. Set your voice volume to low and keep it low until morning. This helps soothe them.

Most parents set their babies routine around the following:

Bath> bottle or breast feed> burp> nappy check> cuddles> bed

(You might find that a slightly different order works better for you, that’s fine, work it round your own children and how they work best)

If a bath doesn’t wake your babies up too much (some babies get revved up by an evening bath) you could bath each baby, give them a bottle or breastfeed, burp them, check that they’re not needing a fresh nappy and pop them down to sleep. It helps if the room they’re sleeping in is not too hot or too cold, but at a nice even temperature. Use a black out blind during the summer months and all year round if you’ve got street lighting. Sometimes having a ticking clock in the room can help them to settle.

They will need after 3-4 hours and again 3-4 hours later. It may work that you give your babies a feed at around 7 pm, 11pm, 2am, 6am. There is a train of thought where you should feed on demand and another train of thought that you should feed every 3-4 hours regardless. Personally I went with them and fed on demand as I don’t see the point of listening to a hungry baby for an hour or two when I could feed him/her, meet his/her needs and then get some peace.

Managing night time feeds with twins

At first your twins will need feeding during the night time as well as during the day. In fact a new baby is likely to need to be fed every 3-4 hours (sometimes more often). Their tummies are only tiny and need refilling frequently.

IF you’re bottle feeding it can help if you get daddy to give the 11pm (ish) bottle, allowing you to go to bed for a few hours from 9ish until they need another bottle at 2-3am (ish). If you’re breastfeeding and are able to express breast milk and offer that in a bottle, again daddy could potentially offer this during the later part of the evening rather than you having to wait up. If you’re breastfeeding you could always get him to bring the babies to you for their late evening feed.

It helps if you have everything you need set up so that you’re just able to do what you need to do without putting a bright light on. I found having a spare table lamp with a night light bulb in it helped. We also had a dimmer switch on the bedroom light fitting so that I could feed them without putting on the harsh over head light or disturbing anyone else in the room. It’s a good idea to have everything you need in order to give a night time feed to hand and somewhere warm and comfortable to sit.

As your babies get bigger they are likely to go slightly longer between feeds and then get to the stage where they don’t need a night time feed (phew)

 

 

 

 

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Establishing a Daytime Routine for Newborn Twins

How do I establish a daytime routine for newborn twins?

Essentially your daily routine will revolve around feeding your babies, winding them, changing them, letting them sleep and attempting to get some sleep yourself. In the early days your babies will need feeding every 2-4 hours. It helps if you can get them into some kind of routine.

There are two ways of doing this.

  1. One  way is to allow them to feed when they want feeding. If one wakes up and is hungry and you know how to feed them both together it would be worth waking the other one up and feeding him/her too so that you then (theoretically at least) get more time between feeds.
  2. The other way is to feed them at set times for example 8am, 12pm, 4pm, 8pm, 12 am, 4 am, 8am and so on (or three hourly if they’re hungrier). If you have other children to take to school you might have to impose more of a routine on them than if they were your first children and you had a freer schedule.

 

Watch your babies over a few days/weeks to see if there is a pattern developing. Do they fill their nappies before a feed, during a feed or after a feed? If it’s before, change them before the feed, if it’s after the feed, wait until after they’ve had their feed. I found having a small notebook to write down their natural awake and sleep times and when they wanted feeding and worked my twins routine around them. My twins were my first children and so I didn’t have to dash out for the school or nursery run and so could do this. If you have a nursery or school run or are heading back to work you might need to insert your babies routine into your existing routine.

Once they’ve had their feed, you’ve winded them, and changed them if necessary, put them in their baby bouncers for some awake time. If you’re doing chores around the house take your babies with you if you can. Don’t leave them unattended. As they get older you can put them on a play mat for some tummy time.

 

Make sure it’s clear when it’s day time.

During the daytime make plenty of noise. Put on the washing machine, have the radio on, use the vacuum cleaner (once your stitches have healed, of course). Talk to them even if they’re too little to understand what you’re saying. If at all possible go out for some fresh air every day it really helps to keep you sane. It also motivates you to get dressed (although getting dressed seems a bit of an additional, somewhat unnecessary task, it can help you feel human again (obviously if you’re in pain with c-section stitches etc and aren’t going anywhere then don’t do this) but if you’re otherwise well, even having a 2 minute shower will make you feel so much better.

If you would like to you could dress your twins in ‘proper clothes’ during the day time, rather than sleepsuits (babygrows), although it’s by no means compulsory to do so. Whether you pick matching outfits or not is up to you. There are some twins who love being dressed like their twin and others who hate it (whilst they’re young enough not to care either way you get to pick which path to follow)

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Recovering from the birth of twins

Time is the best healer

No matter how you’ve given birth, you will need time to recover from this. The best way to heal any scars/ tears would be to rest as much as you can. I know it’s not easy to rest when you’ve got newborn twins in the house but rest whenever you possibly can.

Do as little as you can around the house. Enlist help from those around you.

Make only light quick easy meals (or get someone else to cook) If you don’t already have a slow cooker(crock pot) , they’re a great investment as you can fill it up in a morning when you’ve got a little more energy and leave it to cook so it’s ready to dish up at dinner time.

Do the bare minimum of housework (if you are very houseproud get someone else to tidy for you). If friends come round for cup of tea and a cuddle with the twins ask them to make the tea. Don’t feel you need to jump off the sofa to start making everyone a drink. You really don’t.

In times past the only thing a mother had to do for the first ten days of the babies life was to feed and change him/her. Whilst of course these days we know that long periods of inaction is not a great idea, there’s certainly a case for spending a good proportion of your time doing just that. Spend time getting to know your babies and concentrate on establishing feeding routines and resting.

Be gentle on yourself

Don’t forget that your body has been through a lot of the last 9 months and will need time to recover. Try to eat sensible meals on a regular basis (it’s easy to ‘forget’ about yourself in the chaos of looking after newborn twins) remember to drink plenty of fluids, especially if you’re breastfeeding your twins. Having plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables and protein will help you feel better.

If you have stitches or scars ask your health team for advice as to how best to care for them.

If you have had an episiostomy (cut to the perenium during a vaginal birth) or a caesarean you will need time for your wound to heal. Your health team will advise you what you need to do to promote healing. Avoid lifting anything (including your children) until you’re feeling better.

If you’ve had an episiostomy you might find that it hurts when you pee. If this is the case try peeing in the shower whilst you flush that area with warm water. Sitting on a ring cushion might also help take the pressure off ‘downstairs’.

When can I drive after my caesarean?

If you have had a caesarean you will need to find out what your car insurance policy says about driving after a caesarean. You might have to get a certificate from your GP to say you are fit to drive again. Different countries and states have different policies so find out what applies to where you are.

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Coming Home with Newborn Twins

Your first night at home with newborn twins.

 

Finally you’re home with your twins. It can seem a little bit strange at first without the hustle and bustle of the hospital environment. If you have some help to hand encourage them to put dinner on and keep you well stocked with (non-alcoholic *sorry*) drinks and snacks to keep your strength up. If you’ve had a c-section or have any stitches you might find you need some help with lifting the babies. Don’t hesitate to ask your family to help you with anything that you find difficult like lifting etc.

Keep calm ~ it’s only twins

Try to have as quiet an evening as possible ~ ask any excited visitors to come a different day. Have dinner (hopefully someone else will have made this for you) and then start with the twins night time routine. They will need a calm environment so make sure you have your voice as low as possible, and keep other noise to a minimum.  But don’t tippy-toe about either or you’re likely to end up having to watch Eastenders with the sound off and subtitles on for the next 5 years. Don’t do it. Just don’t make more noise than strictly necessary. (Though that said my twins’ dad used to saw up logs with a chain saw under their window on a regular basis and they slept through it, somehow)

Things you need to do before they go to bed

In simple terms your babies will need to have a bath if they need one, a new nappy, a bedtime bottle, a burp and then bed. It’s up to you which order you do things in. You might find that your twins need a new nappy before you feed them, or they might decide to ‘go’ the minute they’ve finished their feed. Work round them and do whatever suits their/your needs best. (Sometimes you find that one twin does one thing and the other something else entirely. In this instance just follow their lead and give them what they need at the time)

Feeding time (again)

You will probably find that you’re up at least a couple of times in the night, babies need to be fed every 2-4 hours round the clock. They need this because their tummies are very small and if they get left for too long between feeds they may get too tired to feed properly. If you find that one baby wakes up and the other one stays asleep you have two options. If you know how to feed them together then wake them both up and feed them together. If you don’t know how to feed them together then feed the one that’s awake then after you’ve finished feed the other one. Otherwise you’re likely to get to bed and just as your head hits the pillow the other one is bound to wake up demanding a feed.

 

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Coping in Hospital with Newborn Twins

How long will I stay in hospital for after the birth of my twins?

This largely depends on you and your babies. If you’ve had a vaginal birth and your children are not needing any special care, you could potentially leave within 24 hours of having them. If you have a Cesarean it largely depends how it went and how you’re feeling after it.

Some mums stay in hospital for a day or two, maybe longer. Others stay in just 24 hours and then are released and monitored by their health team at home. It depends on what resources are available to you in your area and how you and your babies are doing. If you are unsure how long you are going to be in hospital for, ask your midwife for advice.

Establishing a Feeding Routine (see also article on Breastfeeding Twins )

Shortly after the birth you will give them their first feed. This could be by giving them a breast feed or offering a bottle of expressed milk or formula. If your babies need a fresh nappy, change them before you begin. Wash your hands, make bottles if you’re bottle feeding. Get comfortable and offer the feed. Your midwife should give you guidance as to how to breast or bottle feed and check that you’re correctly latched on if you’re breast feeding.  You might need help lifting the babies up if you’ve had a Cesarean. Newborn twins need feeding every 2-4 hours round the clock. It helps if you can feed them together. Your midwife will be able to advise you how to breastfeed your twins and help you to latch on.

What happens if they fall asleep at the breast/ during their feed?

Should they fall asleep during the feed gently wake them up again. Once they’ve had enough milk they should remove their mouth from your breast and turn their head away, or simply stop suckling. You might find that one twin/triplet finishes their feed first, it is handy to be able to put the one that has finished their feed into a bouncy chair for a few minutes whilst you finish feeding the other baby. After the feed, make sure you burp both babies by gently rubbing or tapping their upper back until any trapped wind comes up.

If you haven’t already done so, about 5-10 mins after a feed is a good time to change nappies.

Once they’ve been fed, burped, changed etc you can pop them back down into their cot.
This process is repeated every 3-4 hours (sooner if your babies are very hungry).

Whilst in hospital get as much help with feeding as possible from your midwife

Whilst in hospital get as much help with breastfeeding as you can from your midwife. If you find that your babies are always hungry, or it seems particularly painful to breastfeed, ask your midwife to check that you’re latching them on correctly. If possible ask your midwife to show you how to breastfeed them both together as this will save time during night feeds once you get home.

Coping with visitors in hospital.

It is up to you and your partner who visits you in hospital. Take as much time as you need. If you are happy to have lots of visitors (and the hospital is ok with you having them, some are keen for it to be ‘partners only’ for the first 24 hours if you’ve had a cesarean! If possible arrange it so you know in advance who is coming, so you can stagger visitors. It is very difficult when people all turn up at once!

Getting enough sleep(!)

When the babies are asleep try to get some sleep yourself. It can be really difficult getting enough sleep in the early days so every little helps. Some hospitals have an ‘afternoon siesta’ policy before visiting hour, where everyone has a lie down for an hour in the afternoons. This is a great idea. If you cannot sleep at all, please contact your midwife or doctor to see if there is anything they can suggest or give you to help.

Going Home

Once you’ve got to grips with caring for your babies, you’ve established either breast or bottle feeding and you and they are all in good health, you will be allowed to go home.

  • Before you go, make sure that someone has everything ready for you at home.
  • There needs to be enough staples like milk, tea, coffee ready to make yourself and visitors a hot drink.
  • There needs to be something easy to cook ready in the fridge/ freezer. Also having something nice to drink (that is non-alcoholic and caffeine free) would be a good idea as it’s important to keep your fluid intake up especially if you’re breastfeeding.
  • All the equipment needs to be organized and set up ready to use, in a suitable place.
  • There needs to be enough nappies to last you a few days at least, and if you’re bottle feeding enough milk formula too.

Your partner/ friend will need to bring in 

  • A blanket each for the babies,
  • Car seats (unless you’ve not got a car!)
  • Coats or cardigans for you all (depending on what season it is).
  • Proper clothes for you. Loose-ish leggings or tracksuit bottoms are ideal.
  • A suitcase or holdall to take all your belongings home in (unless you’ve kept one with you!)

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