Information, Advice & Support for Adult Twins
Twinsonline is always interested in hearing the experiences both good and bad of Adult Twins and More, whether you found that it was a wonderful, enlivening experience growing up with a twin by your side, or you hated every minute of it, or perhaps your experience was somewhere between the two. 
Please E-mail your experiences.
Most of you will have found being one of twin no more stressful or challenging than having a regular sibling, and Twinsonline appreciates that.
However there are going to be some of you who have found that being one of twins has left you with issues you feel you would like to be resolved, and this is what this page is going to focus on.
It is hard to write this without stereotyping so-called typical twins as we fully appreciate that all twins are different and there is no typical type of twins.
Not all of the issues outlined below will affect you nor will all of them be relevant.
If you can think of an issue that twins are likely to face during adulthood or you have a particular issue you would like help to resolve please email Sarah and I will do my best to help you in whatever way I can.
Now you are adults how do you go on to do things that are important to you without weakening the bond between you and your twin?
With today’s technology you can still keep in constant touch with each other using telephone, text messaging, email, even using instant messaging via your computer.
For some of you doing your own thing may seem strange at first , especially if your path up to adulthood was very similar in nature to that of your twin, for instance if you have always attended the same school, social groups and had joint friends
If you go your own way in life will you be less close to your twin as a result?
Do not worry you will NOT weaken any bond between yourself and your twin if you make your own way in life, choosing a career in a different field to that of your twin, living in separate counties or even countries, getting married and having a family.
Often the first time twins have to find their own feet so to speak is when they go to university, begin their new career or leave home for the first time.
This can be a shock to the system if you have more often than not done things with your twin beside you. Some people find when they first move to university or begin their new career(without their twin) that for the very first time they blend in with the crowd and no one pays them special attention for being a twin. For some people this can be refreshing and a huge bonus, but for other people it can be a bit disconcerting.
Twins can find themselves fitting into set roles - one twin perhaps doing practical tasks whilst the other one takes care of paperwork etc. When you are thrust into the wider world for the first time, you may have to tackle both these things in order to survive.
How do you go about doing things you would like to do? The best way of doing anything radical is to sit down and make a list of what you would like to do, places you would like to work at or visit etc. Gaining a list of values and interests that belongs to you and you alone and does not take into consideration what everyone else likes wants and thinks is valuable for anyone to have, whether or not they are one of twins.
As long as you can still communicate regularly with your twin if you would like to of course you should be fine no matter where in the world you end up.
Some twins have settled into their own separate lives with one twin in Australia and the other one still in the UK and they have coped beautifully with it.
There is absolutely no reason why you should miss out on opportunities as they arise as it is still possible to have as much contact with your twin as you would like if you make use of available technology.
I have always dressed the same as my twin, now I want to dress differently please help.
There are no hard and fast rules about dressing like your twin during Adulthood, some people still choose to dress the same as their twin, and others dress differently by choice.
However some people have always worn the same clothes as their twin but come to the conclusion they would like to wear different clothes from their twin now, but are unsure whether to suddenly wear different clothes or whether to gradually get used to their new look by wearing different tops or trousers or skirts, and wearing the same stuff apart from that single item, building up gradually to wearing an entirely different outfit.
Whether you choose to take the plunge and wear different clothes straight away or do it more slowly so you have time to acclimatize is largely up to you, do whatever suits you best.
If you feel that you would like to continue dressing the same as your twin then do it, its your life and you have to do whatever makes you happiest.
My Twin is getting Married, I feel a bit left out. Help!
When your twin gets married or decides to live with his or her partner, you may feel a bit lost or left out, especially if you haven’t found a partner yourself.
Always remember that you will remain a hugely important person in your twins life even if she or he has got married.
You may find it strange at first sharing your twins time with your twins partner and your twins partner may equally find the bond you share difficult to understand at first, especially if they have not been lucky enough to have a strong bond with their own sibling, or if the have not had any siblings of their own.
You should still be able to keep in close contact with your twin, but do try to respect their need for some of time alone with their partner. Fill your life full of exciting things to do, this should help enormously.
My twin and I often feel similar things at similar times, are we telepathic?
Telepathy often occurs between two people who are close to each other, whether they are siblings, twins, very good friends, or partners.
However there have been many reported cases of (especially Identical) Twins sensing what their twin is feeling at the time, even if the twins are geographically miles apart when the incident occurs. Scientists and researchers are keen to understand how this is possible.
If you feel that you have had a telepathic experience with your twin in the past please do contact us by email or post to Twinsonline and tell us about it.
Also if you have had a telepathic experience with your twin and would be willing to talk on television about it, let us know as we are often asked for twins who have experienced telepathy first hand to come forward for television documentaries.
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Twinsonline is often asked for adult twins for various media requests such as photo shoots, magazine articles, documentaries, and so on.
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Adult Twins Forum
Twinsonline now has it’s own Adult Twins Forum Please feel free to join, post messages and chat to other adult twins.
Adult Twin/ Triplets Photographs Wanted
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If you have a photograph (either recent or taken years ago!) of yourself and your twin that you are willing to let twinsonline use on this website please e-mail thank you.
Tell Twinsonline your experiences
If you would like to share your experiences (good and bad) of being a twin with Twinsonline please e-mail
Do you feel their pain?
Do you and your twin feel each others pain?(or maybe one of you feels the other ones pain but it doesn’t work both ways?!) Are you telepathic? If so please e-mail
Separation Anxiety
Do you suffer from separation anxiety when you are apart from your twin? If so please e-mail
Snap?
Do you often find yourself wearing the same outfit as your twin or choosing the same present for the same person as your twin? if so we would love to hear about it. Please e-mail
Do you work with your twin?
If so drop Twinsonline an e-mail and tell your story! Is it good to work with your twin? How did you end up working with your twin? How do other people cope working with the two of you? e-mail
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Page Last Updated
June 16, 2008
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